Since the 4th of July I have been easily agitated and felt like impending doom, as of mid-last week I found out why. It started by me received a letter from my granddaughter’s mother (or my ex-daughter-in-law). The letter stated that she wanted me to terminate her parental rights and adopt my granddaughter or she is going to petition the courts for parenting time and I needed to contact her immediately with a decision with in 2 days of receiving her letter. Now I have been her legal guardian since she was 18 months old and have had sole custody of my granddaughter since she was about 2 1/2 years old. I have heard absolutely nothing from her in at least 6 years, so I talked to my granddaughter who is now 12. I explained to her that I got the letter from her mother and what it said. She started out very upset telling me she wasn’t going to call her Mom. After talking about all the options we decided that if the court gives her parenting time it might not be a bad idea for her to see her. My granddaughter has a lot of questions and as long as her Mother (and I use the term loosely) is straight and my granddaughter is not in any danger she should talk to her Mother. As of yet we haven’t heard anything and maybe we won’t, but if we do we both know what direction to go in.
A few days after receiving the letter I received an email from a friend of my son’s (my granddaughter’s father). The email started out by saying that he was doing wonderful, buying a house and he wanted me to get a hold of him. I answered that I was glad he was doing so well and that he had a friend, but to be careful. I also told his friend that he knows how to get a hold of me, but I refused to talk to him unless he was clean and sober. I guess telling her that gave her permission to tell me everything he has told her in the last 10 years and that he really wasn’t doing so well he had lost his job because he was caught drinking on the job, he was still drinking everyday, was still doing drugs and my 35 year old son was living with a 19 year old girl. This I didn’t share with my granddaughter.
When I get troubled I clean right now even though it is 90+ degrees and I don’t have air, my house and yard are spotless and yet I am still angry!
On Friday we found out that my Step Father, who is 79, has had 2 open-heart surgeries is going to have his 3rd on August 5th. His health is needless to say not very good, but I’m worried about my Mom if he doesn’t make it through the surgery I don’t think she’s is ready to be alone again.
Yesterday was the topper I found out that my nephew that has been doing so well with his addiction to heroin, has been selling weed, hasn’t been going to meetings and chances are he is using again. He was promoted to phase II in drug court last week and I think he may have been sent to jail this week.
Emotionally I’m a wreck and feel like everything is again falling apart I guess that’s what I get for thinking things were finally looking up.
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