My quest for helping my nephew to kick the drug habit is well underway he has now reached 34 days of being clean, he received his key chain for being clean for 30 days and I don’t think I have ever seen him as proud of something. He really wants this, I am so proud of him and his head is in such a good place! He has always had such a great sense of humor and when his therapist asked why he thought he was going to make it this time why his attitude was so much better he laughingly said, “My aunt would kill me she has just as many hours into my clean time as I do.” Yes, that is the truth while he has slept on one couch, I sleep on the love seat, I know everything he is doing and not doing and it is paying off and I now have a new form of entertainment, sitting in parking lots for hours.
Thank God for this large favor, he has been with me the every step of the way and hopefully will continue to be with US next week. I start a new job through it’s part-time it’s still 3 days a week that we have to work around and I pray that it will go as smoothly as these last 34 days have gone. I’m not saying they have been a piece of cake by any means but they could have been a whole lot worse.
Friday, April 29, 2011
Friday, April 22, 2011
Hope and Love
Since the last entry my nephew has been clean for 27 days and his head still seems to be in the right place, even though when he attended an AA meeting and an ignorant man told him he didn’t belong at that meeting it was the wrong 12 step program for him. I am still with him 24/7, hang on to all his money, and the urges are starting to lessen. We still have a long way to go, but he is starting to feel better about himself. It has been rather humorous he is required to drop 2 to 3 times a week and each time it comes up clean a little faster. After dropping the test showed that he was clean before he even got out of the bathroom he got into the car and said “They have to know when you’ve been using even if you test clean because I used to have to wait about 5 minutes for it to show I was clean.” He really thought he was getting around the system.
Then we attended a vigil for Dominick the four years old that was beaten and tortured for 4 days by his mother’s boyfriend. This year was more a celebration of his life and the warmth of knowing hundreds of people helping to make others aware of child abuse. There was a short time when a local girl sang “Concrete Angel” that the pictures of the day Dominick died went threw my head. That little body so badly broken, burned, bruised and a stocking cap that covered his protruding brain where his skull had been removed to allow the swelling as we all put our hands on him and prayed as the life support equipment was unplugged and he went to our lord.
In memory of Dominick the blue ribbon of pinwheels to remind us that we can help prevent child abuse.
Then we attended a vigil for Dominick the four years old that was beaten and tortured for 4 days by his mother’s boyfriend. This year was more a celebration of his life and the warmth of knowing hundreds of people helping to make others aware of child abuse. There was a short time when a local girl sang “Concrete Angel” that the pictures of the day Dominick died went threw my head. That little body so badly broken, burned, bruised and a stocking cap that covered his protruding brain where his skull had been removed to allow the swelling as we all put our hands on him and prayed as the life support equipment was unplugged and he went to our lord.
In memory of Dominick the blue ribbon of pinwheels to remind us that we can help prevent child abuse.
Friday, April 1, 2011
My New Project - Hopefully Save a life
This week I have taken on a new project. As I have written earlier heroin has become very prevalent in our middle class society. My family and myself are volunteering our time and energy to try to help a young man escape from its clutches. As it is known I have been raising my Granddaughter for the last 10½ years, because my son and his wife are crack addicts. This had to be a family decision, because it would affect all of us. Luckily everyone agreed that it would be worth the effort.
My nephew who is 24 years old and my sister’s only child is facing twenty years in prison if he doesn’t kick the habit. For an addict that doesn’t seem to be enough incentive, he has not been able to stay away from heroin for a two-week time frame. So the offer I made was to be his shadow for a six week time period to start with and to go from there.
These are the rules that have been agreed to:
He had to move out of my sister’s 4400 square foot house and move in with us an 800 square foot house. No more privacy. He sleeps on my couch in the living room and I sleep on the love seat.
He had to give up all driving privileges I would be taking him everywhere he went, therefore he would never be alone.
Thankfully he agreed to it. We are only into our first week and not even into the hard part yet, but I take him to all his court appointments, probation meetings, AA or NA meetings, Doctor appointments and watch him go in and sit in the parking lot until he comes out. Sleeping on the love seat I know when he gets phone calls, if he gets up and anything else that might enter into the picture. I am thankful that so far he has been very open and honest with me and is accepting me so far as being his shadow. We both know that we will get frustrated with one another and at times he will hate me but that’s okay if he can live a life a better life.
My nephew who is 24 years old and my sister’s only child is facing twenty years in prison if he doesn’t kick the habit. For an addict that doesn’t seem to be enough incentive, he has not been able to stay away from heroin for a two-week time frame. So the offer I made was to be his shadow for a six week time period to start with and to go from there.
These are the rules that have been agreed to:
He had to move out of my sister’s 4400 square foot house and move in with us an 800 square foot house. No more privacy. He sleeps on my couch in the living room and I sleep on the love seat.
He had to give up all driving privileges I would be taking him everywhere he went, therefore he would never be alone.
Thankfully he agreed to it. We are only into our first week and not even into the hard part yet, but I take him to all his court appointments, probation meetings, AA or NA meetings, Doctor appointments and watch him go in and sit in the parking lot until he comes out. Sleeping on the love seat I know when he gets phone calls, if he gets up and anything else that might enter into the picture. I am thankful that so far he has been very open and honest with me and is accepting me so far as being his shadow. We both know that we will get frustrated with one another and at times he will hate me but that’s okay if he can live a life a better life.
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